Group Reads

Letters from a Sex Addict:

My Life Exposed

by Dan Drake and Wendy Conquest

This book is a collection of letters that reveal the raw and intimate details of the life of a sex addict. It depicts a journey that starts at a turning point: Getting caught! Moving from pure denial through the recovery process to acceptance and beyond. A must-read for anyone cheating or being cheated on.

Letters To A Sex Addict:

The Journey through Grief and Betrayal

by Wendy Conquest

Sudden changes in routine, bizarre and inexplicable shifts in behavior, in the bedroom and out. Emotional distance and excuses for lack of connection. These are all telltale signs that something is very, very wrong. For a sex addict’s spouse or partner, these changes and fluctuations are upsetting and crazy making, leading to thoughts that they have done something wrong, aren’t good enough or that there is some other reason for the inconsistent, bewildering behavior. For many, sex or porn addiction is farthest from their minds or too scary to consider. Inspired by a career of working with sex addicts and their partners/spouses, Wendy Conquest’s collection of letters fuses fiction and nonfiction to astounding results.

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse

by Dr. Babara Steffens

Dr. Barbara Steffens has specialized in the area of sexual addiction and providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. At her practice in Cincinnati, Ohio, Safe Passages Counseling, she provides individual and group counseling, as well as coaching for partners of sexual addicts. She is also President of the Board for APSATS: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists.

Surviving the Holidays: A Holiday Guide for Couples in Recovery after Sexual Betrayal

by Dan Drake, Julia Alperovich, Katie Sanford and Monifa Ellis-Addie

Remember when the holidays were a time filled with family, wonderful fragrances, and holiday cheer? In the wake of the discovery of sex addiction, we often hear how triggering special events such as holidays can be. The pictures and memories of beautiful times gone by are replaced with hurt, anger, and betrayal. We’ve created this guide as a collection of supportive writings and exercises to help you better navigate the holiday season after sexual betrayal. We hope you find renewed support knowing that you’re not alone this year.

Healthy Boundaries

by Dan Drake, Katie Sanford, Julia Alperovich, and Eric Anderson

If you have experienced betrayal, you have no doubt found that safety and trust in your relationship has eroded. And if you have betrayed your partner, you’ve most likely found that they no longer trust you like they once did.One essential way to rebuild safety and trust in relationships after betrayal is through understanding, setting, and keeping boundaries. Boundaries are a roadmap towards rebuilding safety. This guide will help you better understand what boundaries are and how they can help your relationship heal after betrayal. If you are a betrayed partner, this guide will help you set and keep boundaries. If you are the betraying partner, you will learn what boundaries are and how you can help restore your relationship through keeping your partner’s boundaries.

Pure Desire: How One Man’s Triumph Can Help Others Break Free From Sexual Temptation

by Ted Roberts

There is hope for breaking free from sexual bondage. Learn how to establish healthy personal boundaries with proven, practical applications to claim Christ’s healing power and presence. Discover how you can start walking in victory today!

Out of the Shadows:

Understanding Sexual Addiction

by Patrick J. Carnes

This is an important introductory book for anyone wanting to explore if they or their partner might be addicted to sex.

Facing the Shadow

by Patrick J. Carnes

Facing the Shadow takes techniques used by thousands of people recovering from sexual addiction and shows, step by step, how to break free of this disease and live a healthier, more fulfilling life. This second edition adds timely material on cybersex and new science about arousal. This work sets the stage for the recovery tasks at hand, then provides practical, easy-to-follow exercises specifically designed to help understand and address those tasks. Facing the Shadow teaches why denial is so powerful and what can be done to break through it; how to face the consequences of your behaviors using recovery principles; how to respond to change and crisis due to addiction; how to manage life without dysfunctional behavior; how spirituality affects recovery; what to disclose and to whom; and how sex addiction starts and what an addict needs to know.