Full Disclosure:
How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal

by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill

Have your secret sexual behaviors recently been discovered? Are you stuck in knowing what to share, how much to share, and how to not traumatize your partner with too many gory details about your past? Has your therapist asked you to do a “Formal Disclosure” but you have no idea how to do that? Do you want to begin a life of honesty, integrity, and transparency? IF ANY OF THOSE QUESTIONS APPLY, THIS WORKBOOK IS FOR YOU. This guide walks you through a comprehensive approach to providing a full disclosure of your sexual past to your partner. We help you break down the entire process, offering you a step-by-step approach to sharing your past and restoring a foundation of truth in your relationship. Through examples, questions, and through the shared experiences of others, we’ve created a way for you to navigate a complex, difficult process. Designed to be used with your partner’s companion workbook, “Full Disclosure: Seeking Truth After Sexual Betrayal,” this resource can help you build a new life and relationship that’s based on honesty and integrity.Note: This workbook includes a comprehensive guide to preparing for your Full Disclosure, broken up into three volumes. This includes a guide to help you understand what a disclosure is and if it’s right for you, preparing a disclosure document and preparing for the disclosure session, as well as preparation post-disclosure. If you only need structured support around preparing your disclosure document, please see our resource, “Your Disclosure Document: A 10-Step Guide for Preparing Your Disclosure Document.”

Your Disclsoure Document:
A 10-Step Guide for Preparing Your Disclsoure Document

by Dan Drake and Janice Caudill

(This Workbook is Volume 2 of a comprehensive disclosure preparation guide for the disclosing individual – Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal.)  Are you preparing for a full disclosure after sexual betrayal? Are you stuck in knowing what to share, how much to share, and how to not traumatize your partner with too many gory details in this full disclosure? If you are looking for tools to better prepare for a full disclosure after sexual betrayal, this workbook breaks down the disclosure-writing process into a comprehensive partner-sensitive 10-step approach. As you follow this guide you will learn to prepare a disclosure document to prepare to your partner after sexual betrayal. This workbook demystifies the disclosure-writing process to better help you prepare for a full disclosure.

Full Disclosure (for partners):
Seeking Truth AFter Betrayal

by Janice Caudill and Dan Drake

THIS BOOK IS FOR PARTNERS WHO HAVE EXPERIENCED SEXUAL BETRAYAL. Have you discovered your partner’s sexual secrets? Are you looking for a way to seek the extent of the betrayal you’ve experienced in a safe way? If you’re looking for a guide to help you walk through the Full Disclosure process, we’ve designed this workbook series to help you. In this volume, you will learn what a Full Disclosure is and determine if it’s right for you. Volume 2 will help you prepare for the Full Disclosure. Volume 3 will help you heal post-disclosure. Through examples, questions, and through the shared experiences of others, we’ve created a supportive way for you to navigate a complex, difficult process. Designed to be used with your partner’s companion workbook, “Full Disclosure: How to Share the Truth After Sexual Betrayal,” this resource can help you heal after sexual betrayal.

Rebuilding Your Foundation:
Healing for Yourself and for Your Relationship

by Dan Drake and Eric Anderson

Are you a sex addiction or betrayal trauma specialist looking for a resource to help your clients build a solid foundation of recovery and relational healing after sexual betrayal? If you want to help your clients start rebuilding and healing, this workbook is for you. We’ve created this workbook for use in an intensive / workshop environment, helping you structure some foundational areas of healing and restoration for those in recovery.

Building True Intimacy:
Creating a Connection that Stands the Test of Time

by Dan Drake, Joanna Raabsmith and Matthew Raabsmith

We all crave deep, fulfilling relationships—connections that bring joy, security, and true intimacy. Yet, few things in life are more challenging than building a relationship that not only survives but thrives through life’s inevitable ups and downs.

Building True Intimacy is for couples and individuals who long for something more—a relationship that feels deeply connected — yet need a clear, actionable path to get there.

This book introduces The Intimacy Pyramid, a proven framework for creating a love that stands the test of time. With honesty as the foundation, we’ll guide you through the essential steps to building safety and trust, unlocking the power of vulnerability, and ultimately achieving a profound level of intimacy you may have never thought possible.

Drawing from both professional expertise and real-life experiences, we provide practical tools and insights that will help you transform your relationship from merely surviving to truly thriving. If you’re ready to break through barriers and build a love that lasts, this book will show you the way.

Letters from a Sex Addict:

My Life Exposed

by Dan Drake and Wendy Conquest

This book is a collection of letters that reveal the raw and intimate details of the life of a sex addict. It depicts a journey that starts at a turning point: Getting caught! Moving from pure denial through the recovery process to acceptance and beyond. A must-read for anyone cheating or being cheated on.

Surviving the Holidays: A Holiday Guide for Couples in Recovery after Sexual Betrayal

by Dan Drake, Julia Alperovich, Katie Sanford and Monifa Ellis-Addie

Remember when the holidays were a time filled with family, wonderful fragrances, and holiday cheer? In the wake of the discovery of sex addiction, we often hear how triggering special events such as holidays can be. The pictures and memories of beautiful times gone by are replaced with hurt, anger, and betrayal. We’ve created this guide as a collection of supportive writings and exercises to help you better navigate the holiday season after sexual betrayal. We hope you find renewed support knowing that you’re not alone this year.

Healthy Boundaries

by Dan Drake, Katie Sanford, Julia Alperovich, Eric Anderson and Monifa Ellis-Addie

If you have experienced betrayal, you have no doubt found that safety and trust in your relationship has eroded. And if you have betrayed your partner, you’ve most likely found that they no longer trust you like they once did.One essential way to rebuild safety and trust in relationships after betrayal is through understanding, setting, and keeping boundaries. Boundaries are a roadmap towards rebuilding safety. This guide will help you better understand what boundaries are and how they can help your relationship heal after betrayal. If you are a betrayed partner, this guide will help you set and keep boundaries. If you are the betraying partner, you will learn what boundaries are and how you can help restore your relationship through keeping your partner’s boundaries.

Your Sexually Addicted Spouse

by Dr. Babara Steffens

Dr. Barbara Steffens has specialized in the area of sexual addiction and providing help for the partners of sexual addicts since 1999. At her practice in Cincinnati, Ohio, Safe Passages Counseling, she provides individual and group counseling, as well as coaching for partners of sexual addicts. She is also President of the Board for APSATS: The Association of Partners of Sex Addicts Trauma Specialists.

Letters To A Sex Addict:

The Journey through Grief and Betrayal

by Wendy Conquest

Sudden changes in routine, bizarre and inexplicable shifts in behavior, in the bedroom and out. Emotional distance and excuses for lack of connection. These are all telltale signs that something is very, very wrong. For a sex addict’s spouse or partner, these changes and fluctuations are upsetting and crazy making, leading to thoughts that they have done something wrong, aren’t good enough or that there is some other reason for the inconsistent, bewildering behavior. For many, sex or porn addiction is farthest from their minds or too scary to consider. Inspired by a career of working with sex addicts and their partners/spouses, Wendy Conquest’s collection of letters fuses fiction and nonfiction to astounding results.

Pure Desire: How One Man’s Triumph Can Help Others Break Free From Sexual Temptation

by Ted Roberts

There is hope for breaking free from sexual bondage. Learn how to establish healthy personal boundaries with proven, practical applications to claim Christ’s healing power and presence. Discover how you can start walking in victory today!

Out of the Shadows:

Understanding Sexual Addiction

by Patrick J. Carnes

This is an important introductory book for anyone wanting to explore if they or their partner might be addicted to sex.

Facing the Shadow

by Patrick J. Carnes

Facing the Shadow takes techniques used by thousands of people recovering from sexual addiction and shows, step by step, how to break free of this disease and live a healthier, more fulfilling life. This second edition adds timely material on cybersex and new science about arousal. This work sets the stage for the recovery tasks at hand, then provides practical, easy-to-follow exercises specifically designed to help understand and address those tasks. Facing the Shadow teaches why denial is so powerful and what can be done to break through it; how to face the consequences of your behaviors using recovery principles; how to respond to change and crisis due to addiction; how to manage life without dysfunctional behavior; how spirituality affects recovery; what to disclose and to whom; and how sex addiction starts and what an addict needs to know.